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How to Build Trust Before the Sale
A field-tested system for earning genuine credibility with prospects before you ever pitch, so you close deals faster and with less friction.
by Alumigogo Books
Chapter 1: Why Most Approaches Fail — and What Actually Works
You have probably been told that selling to people is just about making them like you. You have also probably been told to "add value" until they ask to buy. Maybe you have tried both. You send the prospect a relevant article. You ask questions to show you are interested. You agree with their pain points. You are friendly, responsive, and patient. And then they go silent.
This silence is not a failure of your product or your personality. It is not even a failure of your effort. It is a failure of your strategy. The common wisdom about pre-sale trust is not just incomplete. It is actively making your job harder because it targets the wrong variable. You are trying to make the prospect feel good. You should be trying to make them feel safe. These are not the same thing, and confusing them is the most expensive mistake in business development.
Consider the standard advice to "build rapport" by finding common ground or mirroring the prospect's language. There is a reason this feels oily even when you do it sincerely. In a sales context, the prospect's brain is not interpreting "I also love Italian food" as a sign that you are a compatible human. Their brain is interpreting that as a distraction. A 2006 study in the Journal of Consumer Research found that consumers actively resist persuasion attempts when they identify a tactic as a deliberate strategy,